Update….2 years on

Well. I have been told he is now living with the woman he cheated with, the one he referred to as crazy. The one who he was just thinking of starting to date – mainly because he didn’t want anything serious. And certainly not with a woman who had kids. He doesn’t want kids in his life. And yes, the same woman he had compose an email to me telling me how they were never cheating and she just wouldn’t do that, and she was complimented that he told her we were so much alike, and that he and I had been her “couples goals”. Yes. That same woman.

Of course that was all a lie that she happily participated in because she got her man. And all I feel right now is grateful. Grateful that I am no longer a part of that drama. I am happy I got out before being hit or killed in some mysterious accident. Now that might seem a bit dramatic, but do you know who never thought she would be killed by her partner? Maggie Murdaugh. When she thought Alex Murdaugh was acting strange and felt he was up to something when he was pressuring her to go to the hunting lodge that evening, she was convinced to ignore her instincts. And she went. And we all know how that turned out.

There were many times when I thought he was up to something and I needed to be careful. Once I even mentioned it to him and he just looked at me. Didn’t say a word. Didn’t change the expression on his face. Just looked at me. After that I started to be more aware of him and the situations we were in. On vacation he once asked if I wanted to go out into the ocean on paddle boards with him and I declined. It would be too easy to say I fell off and he couldn’t save me. Another time we went on a bike ride but when we got back to the truck and I had put my phone in the cab he asked me to walk down a different trail. One that was much more wooded. When I hesitated, he cajoled me into going. “Come on. I just want to see it.” Luckily, as soon as he walked in the trees he was swarmed by bugs and came running back out. Then a few weeks later he told me he was going out to his friends place that was being built because it had a “huge pit” that he could throw yard waste into and he suddenly asked it I wanted to go with him – like he just had a great idea. I did not go. That wasn’t long before I finally said “enough”.

So now I am sitting safely in my new life and she is sitting there with him having to listen to him whine about how the women in his life were all horrible to him. His mom expected him to do better in school, his sister did well in school and that made him look bad, and his wife cut her hair and focused on the children. Even his kids are university graduates and that makes him the least educated in the family. So it is pretty obvious that everyone in his life was out to make him feel bad about himself. Poor baby.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am still horribly embarrassed about spending so much time with someone so completely pathetic, but I am freaking thrilled I figured it out and walked away when I did. Even if it did cost me financially. At least I am still happy and healthy.

I hope for her children’s sake she gets out the same way.